"It seems our love of rom-coms is turning us into a nation of "happy-ever-after addicts." Yet the warm and fuzzy feeling they provide can adversely influence our view of real relationships," said Australian relationship counselor, Gabrielle Morrissey. "Real relationships take work and true love requires more than fireworks."
The survey was released by Warner Home Video to mark the movie Valentine's Day going to DVD.
In 2008, the BBC reported:
Rom-coms have been blamed by relationship experts at Heriot Watt University for promoting unrealistic expectations when it comes to love. They found fans of films such as Runaway Bride and Notting Hill often fail to communicate with their partner. Many held the view if someone is meant to be with you, then they should know what you want without you telling them. Psychologists at the family and personal relationships laboratory at the university studied 40 top box office hits between 1995 and 2005, and identified common themes which they believed were unrealistic.
"The problem is that while most of us know that the idea of a perfect relationship is unrealistic, some of us are still more influenced by media portrayals than we realise." -Dr Bjarne Holmes, Heriot Watt University
The movies included You've Got Mail, Maid In Manhattan, The Wedding Planner and While You Were Sleeping.
Edit:
"The Bechdel Test is a simple way to gauge the active presence of female characters in Hollywood films and just how well rounded and complete those roles are. It was created by Allison Bechdel in her comic strip Dykes to Watch Out For in 1985. It is astonishing the number of popular movies that can't pass this simple test. It demonstrates how little women's complex and interesting lives are underrepresented or non existent in the film industry. We have jobs, creative projects, friendships and struggles among many other things that are actually interesting in our lives... so Hollywood, start writing about it!"
Thanks to Jennifer LoveGrove for sharing the video.
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6 comments:
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Unfortunately, females have been raised with an unrealistic view of love and marriage. After all, what do little girls watch? Cinderella. Sometimes I think Cinderella should be banned and replaced with GI Jane. Then we could picture ourselves as strong, capable women instead of week little girls who need prince charming to take care of us. Also, that puts too much pressure on men to try to live up to that "knight on the white horse" image. We should be looking for partners who we can relate to as equals, where both sides bring something to the relationship. This Bechdel test certainly provides some food for thought. I will start checking movies now to see which ones pass.
You mean love isn't perfect, you can't win a girl's heart by pestering her nonstop for months, and Mel Gibson doesn't really know what women want? Gasp!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lf0Fn1UoHe4
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