Saturday, October 20, 2012

The I Love You Compulsion

Western people seem to have this compulsion to say, "I love you." It's as if expressing our love in words can make it real. It's as if the words could give our love true existence. And if you say it to me that you love me, then that too would make the love real. On the other hand, if you don't say "I love you," or you don't say it often enough, that implies that you don't really love me. It's interesting, from the point of view of voidness, to see how we falsely imagine that words can create or prove the true existence of our emotions. 

But if we look at traditional Indian society, people don't say "I love you" to each other, not even to their spouse or their children. In Tibetan, there isn't even the expression "I love you." One demonstrates one's love and one's affections by one's actions, not by one's words. 

 - Alexander Berzin 

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3 comments:

Local Love Chat said...

Actions speak louder than words, the more you show it through actions, that you love a person the more it is felt than it is said.

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APersonOfManyLetters said...

We've become accustomed to use "I love you" The overuse has made it lose its meaning, I believe it means nothing unless accompanied by actions. Great post :)